The post is about creating a standard RFO styleguide, in this particular for the Window - Curtain Wall template/family. So you're kind of in the wrong thread, but since I can't move it, I'll just answer...

Question 1:
Sorry, but that's an impossibility. You can't have it both ways. Either you have a more rigid approach using windows which are in fact good for tagging and stuff (since you can make their dimensions fixed), or you go "on the fly" with a CW. You could simply do the first stages of design with a CW and switch to windows when form and pattern are somewhat definitive.
There is a Dutch Addon (www.smartrevit.com) which transforms a Model Line or Curtain Wall form into a window but it has a lot of backdrafts. Not in the least that it creates a non-parametric sized window. Which you'll have to remake from scratch when dimensions change again.

Question 2:
Use Nested Families. Create the sidelight and transom as a Window. In the Category Type and Parameters, set to Shared. Same for the door (but create this in a Door Template). Host all into a Window/Door Family (I usually create the Parent as a Door when there is a Opening to walk through) and you can tag and schedule them seperately.

Thanks Martijn. Your answer is what I was expecting, just wanted to make sure I wasn't thinking myself out of a possibility. The first part of my previous post seems to be a wish list...though is seems like this should be possible, at least as an API solution. I know some US companies have Revit window creation add-ins like Anderson windows. However, I believe that is limited to their product line and is more detailed than our office needs a window to be. Plus you still have to go in and enter in a dialog box all the information you want, I think it's less graphical than I would want. Although I haven't looked at it in a while as we don't do a lot of residential work in my office. Maybe it's better now.
It would be great if there was a way, as I described in my previous post, to take your window that was created like a curtain wall and instead of grouping it (as a way of copying it) you could tell it to become a type and its settings would be remembered.
Question 2.
That is what I thought, but dread the thought of recreating all the door standards that I just spent too much time getting set up...

But thanks again for the help!